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[nny]

I don't want a National Coming Out Day, I want a You Don't Get To Pretend Everyone's Straight Day.

Intentionally or unintentionally, easily or painfully, well received or not, pretty much every day is coming out day unless you wear your sexuality on your sleeve, and I wouldn't feel comfortable doing that even if I was straight.

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[dramaturgca.livejournal.com]

Amen.

[apiphile.livejournal.com]

... this.

You just saved me the bother of writing a long and irritated "none of most people's business who ANYONE wants to date, fuck you" post.

[cow.livejournal.com]

Pretty much. Although I like the former because it becomes the latter--it forces all the people with straight privilege who just assume everyone else is straight too to realize that life isn't so simple, and their assumptions need questioning.

Or something.

[villainny.livejournal.com]

I want shirts made up that just say 'don't assume I'm straight', and I want to persuade everyone of every sexuality I know to wear one.

[brewsternorth.livejournal.com]

I would!

[mattp.livejournal.com]

Been reading back through your journal - sorry for minor stalkage
Speaking of t-shirts, when I lived in Manchester I went out clubbing with my then bf and I wore one which said "I'm not gay but my boyfriend is" and he wore one to complement it: "I'm gay but my boyfriend isn't".

It was amusing to see the confused looks on people's faces and then the lightbulb moment. This, even in a gay club.

[villainny.livejournal.com]

Dude, that's totally fine, I'm just gonna hide under a duvet until I can forget what you might have found there. At least you're still talking to me? XD

That is both awesome and sad. I mean, you'd think there'd be a little less narrowmindedness - blinkers, I guess - in that situation, but with any encouragement at all people'll assume that others are Just Like Me. Unless they are Other and therefore scary/evil/exotic/insert adjective. SIGH. When I mention my ex girlfriend people assume I'm gay, which is only half right, and my mother is insistent that if I end up with a guy and get married I will be straight, which NO.

*gnaws disgruntledly on people's brains*

[strangefrontier.livejournal.com]

Amen, sister!

[foreverdirt.livejournal.com]

<3

[villainny.livejournal.com]

I'm coming out as grumpy and single. That pretty much constitutes my sexuality.

[foreverdirt.livejournal.com]

And fabulous. Don't forget fabulous.

[villainny.livejournal.com]

That is, unfortunately, not a recognised part of my sexuality. It's not obvious from the way I look, y'know, and the societal expectation is that everyone's not fabulous, so unless I constantly wear a FABULOUS shirt and wave a little FABULOUS flag and come out about my FABULOUSNESS at societally recognised times and in societally recognised ways, I'm not allowed to be fabulous.

[foreverdirt.livejournal.com]

Man, some days I just hate society.

[villainny.livejournal.com]

I hate assumptions, and generalisations, and idiots. So yeah, me too.

[foreverdirt.livejournal.com]

Which brings me back to my previous comment: <3

[foreverdirt.livejournal.com]

Also, also, everything I know about life I learned from Due South fanfic:

Fraser didn't reply to this; he seemed really intent on getting out whatever it was he wanted to say. "I think it's...difficult to behave admirably. I think that circumstances make it difficult to behave admirably. That's part of...that's one of the things that..." It was odd, totally weird, to hear Fraser stumble over words. "That's essentially what oppression means," he said, finally.

-- The Bodyguard by cesperanza

[villainny.livejournal.com]

Ha.

"So everything he says is a lie and the truth at the same time?"

My life, too, sometimes feels due South related. XD

[batyatoon]

One of the ways in which organized fandom has redecorated the inside of my head is that I now tend to default-assume that everyone I meet is both bi and poly, and then cross things off as they don't apply.

(Everyone I meet outside certain socio-religious circles, where that would be a rude assumption to make -- but I don't rule it out the possibility there either.)