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[nny]

I have bought a book and lost it. How much do this suck? I know it's got to be around here somewhere but I cannot work out where, and if I get to that point in the series before I've found it what do I do?

I've decided to focus on the little problems today. They are somewhat easier to fret about.

Don't think I'll do another round of the valentine's thing next year, I'm not really well enough known any more for it to be particularly useful. My online presence is diminishing, and I'm not sure how I feel about that - my friends are my friends, and frankly that's all that matters, but there are people I miss who I guess must've seen me as a fandomer only, really. And now there's more teaching whinge than fic or squee - I feel like my colours are fading. And I'm not sure I mind that I don't have the time to get out the felt tips.

I think mostly the point of that was thank you those who love me even when I'm not shiny. You are my favourite and my best.

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[venivincere]

♥

[campkilkare]

This!!

[in-the-blue.livejournal.com]

It's my esteemed overblown opinion that you should do whatever you want, both now and next year. For Valentine's Day or any other thing because... that's what we do, and you're not the only one to notice that their online presence is diminishing. Part of it, I think, is that people move on but a bigger part of it is that most people out here in the big bad world of online-ness simply can't be fussed to get off their lazy butts and comment to the things they read. They do it in their heads and think that's enough. We all do that sometimes. Fuck knows there are days when I don't feel like "talking" to anyone or sharing my opinion on things. But if we measure ourselves in large part by the way people online respond to us, I fear we're always going to be disappointed.

There's a stupid phenomenon with fandom stuff especially, which is that as long as it's shared, the other person is a "good buddy." Once we stop sharing that precious fandom, that common link goes away and people can't be arsed to stay in touch.

Nny, I have had this conversation more than once where I'll be talking to someone about how much they hate it when people only talk to them online when they're RPing together or in a fandom together, and how they would never drop other people just because that went away. Then, the minute that link goes away, they drop me like I'm a poisoned frog. You'd think I'd be getting to the point of immunity to it by now, but it still always hurts.

We are all exactly who we are at any given point in time. I suppose it's a blessing not to be followed forever based only on sentimentality, but it stings when we think there was something beyond that and have to learn again and again that yes, most people are just that shallow.

Whinge away, get out the markers or not, but I'm still here and I still read, fandom stuff or not, the teaching stuff fascinates me, and I still love you! Shiny is so overrated. It's the real stuff that makes us who we are.

[icedmaple.livejournal.com]

I think it's more that everyone is leaving LJ for Dreamwidth and Tumblr. There may be 7,000 members on sherlockbbc but there would be a time when I knew a significant portion of the names posting. Now I know barely any because all the big names have departed.

I've never been much into LiveJournal fame (mostly, people made me infamous, anyway) but I do miss the time when I had a lot of people I knew talking about things other than fandom, on my flist.

As for the Valentines meme, I have nothing I want to say, but I never really took part in those memes anyway. It's nothing personal. :)

[silveraspen]

Love you for you, not for fandom.

[flyakate]

I for one find all the teaching stuff fascinating and very in line with my own life (as a substitute teacher who is now teaching full-time for the first time... ever). Teaching can be so insular and lonely, I love the sharing.

HUGS TIMES LOTS.

[forest-rose.livejournal.com]

You, my love, will always be shiny ♥

[la-rainette.livejournal.com]

<3 Love you and miss you! We need to find some time to sit down and talk sometime, aye?

Thinking of you!