nny | (no subject) (Reply)

Well that was certainly an interesting experiment. *shakes head*.

I had absolutely no idea at all that it would become quite so huge as it did. I thought I'd get, at most, 20 comments. I was boogying around the room in delight when I hit 69. (Plus, all the obvious immature reasons for delighting at 69, naturally). Then I went to bed. Then I woke up the next day, and found over 300 replies in my inbox.

O.O

Wow. I've had mutual love fests, stalkers, arguments, CAPSLOCKS, ::)))) smileys ^_^, exchanges of IMs, sweetness, weirdness. I've only had one response that I had to delete, which I'm glad of. I've had people that have put their own names down. Yes. I can tell. *patpat* I've learned a lot more about the personal policies that people have in regards to friending, and I confess I'm never going to understand some of it. I mean, not friending someone because you admire them too much? Or 'cos you're afraid they won't friend you back? I'm afraid I don't see it. I have had people friended for months, and it really doesn't concern me that they haven't listed me back.

Anyone I know well, talk to, care about, has me friended. I know that I can read their friendslocked posts, and if I can't then I understand it's something that doesn't concern me. Likewise, in real life- I wouldn't be offended if a friend told someone else a secret but not me. I'd just assume they had a different relationship. *shrugs* Nor am I going to get pissed off if people de-friend me, since if they are someone I particularly care about I would imagine I'd already know the reason why, and anyone else I completely understand that I might not be to your tastes.

I'm not saying that I don't want people to friend me. I love it. I think it's absolutely grand that people might want to read what I have to say, the (ridiculously infrequent) snippets and ficlets I post. But I won't guarantee that I'll friend you back.

The main reason for this? I'm slack. I really am. It's not like I really f-lock anything anyway. I have friendslocked maybe... two posts in the past month, and that was because they were of no interest to anyone but myself, and I didn't want to be accused of manipulating for sympathy.

I should take a look through my friends-of list more often, I guess. Remind me. *g*

Anyway, back to the crush meme. I didn't mean for it to get quite as elitist as it did. And... I dunno. People posting comments about the fact that they hadn't got any crushes was weird... I mean, my journal is a random place. Most of the people posting were people I'd never seen before, and will likely never see again. Maybe the people that like you hadn't *seen* the meme?

Now it's spawned the hate meme, which I'm not going to link to because I don't think it's a particularly good thing. It looks like it was started tongue-in-cheek, but it's now become genuinely nasty, and I don't think that's fair. The weird part is that people seem to be so *well* *informed* about the people they dislike, which would indicate to me that they still read their journals, or have them on their friendslist. Simple solution? You don't like someone, you don't read them. Is this just me?

There was one comment on the crush post that I found a little bit hurtful, which mentioned clique-yness and such. My response to this? You can't resent someone for not friending you or talking to you if *you haven't spoken to them*. People will not spontaneously bow down to the power that is you. I am sure you *are* grand, but you can't sit in a corner and hope that your grandness will just shine through. Say hi! Be friendly! No one on the internet is better than you. They may be a talented writer or artist, they may be particularly well known or have a large friendslist, but they are all people. The way that people will treat you rests largely on the way that you treat them. If you go into a friendship telling someone that they are better than you, that you don't deserve to be friends with them, you can't blame them if they agree. *shrugs* Just be you.

Anyone have anything to add?