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[nny]

Having a bit of a mental paddy atm because my main source of contact with people is a) here or b) tumblr and a) here is rather deserted and b) tumblr no one has any interest in interacting with me. RL I am mostly getting people asking me for emotional help, which is fine, but the additional weight requires mental scaffolding that I have forgotten to erect.

Lol.

Erect.

I'm kind of looking forward to the point where I am a student at a university and have a social group thrust upon me but I'm having trouble with the means of making friends before that point, because just, like, sitting places on your own is more likely to make people think you are a sad loner billy no mates, especially if you are overweight. And I don't care about people's opinion of me when they are random strangers (because they are wrong and I am occasionally awesome) but the object here is making friends or at least finding someone to talk to.

And on top of that, hormones, which are abusing me from the back of my brain. (You are an embarrassment you are an embarrassment seriously stop talking your every expulsion of air is a strain on other people take pity on them and shut up and stay away and stay away and shut up SHUT UP)

Comments

[skygiants]

*punches hormones in the FACE for you*

Have you looked up stuff like volunteering or book clubs or so on in your area? I did a lot of optimistic volunteering in NYC to try and meet people until more people moved into the city and formed a social group for me.

[nny]

That is an excellent plan, I don't know where to start but I'll definitely look into it. I do have the number of a lady who runs a book club but I've been avoiding phoning her because I am a cowardy cowardy custard. XD

[silveraspen]

I second skygiants's punching.

What about something like Meetup? Is that an option in your location?

<333

[nny]

Ooh, this isn't something I've found before, thank you! :D

[siegeofangels]

<333 I'm sorry your brain is being a hater. You're great.

[nny]

Thank you, and I'm glad the postcard arrived okay! x

[batyatoon]

Stupid brainweasels. :(

*sends you hugs from across the pond*

[nny]

Thank you, they are hugely appreciated. x

[in_the_blue]

I know I always sound like a broken record (because I'm old enough to remember those) when I say it but you are way more than occasionally awesome. I happen to think you're one of the more awesome people I know, all the more because you don't believe it yourself most of the time. That's not denial or self-effacement, it's a rare form of humility at work. If more people were more humble, the world would be a fantastically beautiful place.

I just want to remind you of the same things I do with Hannah, who far prefers hanging out alone and passing time online than getting out and being social: there are reasons for it. Social anxiety is an actual thing, not some pretend failure, and it's something that can't simply be fought through and everything will be fine. Acknowledge and accept, and hang out with the people you love no matter where they are. The rest of the world can go fuck itself with its expectations, because you are an amazing person.

[nny]

You are incredible and I am so grateful to and for you. Thank you. xxx

[krait]

Awww. Sorry the hormones are ganging up on you! And that social media is failing at the "social" aspect.

For whatever it's worth (I suspect "what you paid for it") I'm here and I'm always reading, even if I don't always comment!

I have trouble with Tumblr as a concept because of the lack of interaction issue, so I'm no help there, I fear. (I read certain people's Tumblrs, because that's where a certain fandom is... but I'm frustrated at the lack of discussion and even the lack of a basic way to *contact* people in a coherent fashion. 500 characters, anonymously, not seeming to me very coherent.)