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[nny]

I will say things are okay, if you talk to me.

I cannot say when things are not okay but things are not okay.

I have a tendency to switch things around so we're talking about something else. And if I respond to comments on this post (should there be any) I will say oh, don't worry, I was flaily, it's okay.

It's really kinda not.

I think me and Ferret aren't gonna be friends any more. And I don't know how to deal with that. So my last act, as a friend, is going to be to write her a letter that I really hope will help. But I know she's going to hate me for it, because it won't be easy to read.

Is it still worth doing then? I don't know. I think so.

I think the friendship is done, at this point.

So I guess my last act, as her friend, is to try and give her some advice that should help. Because she CAN'T be seventeen forever. And I can't be seventeen with her. I was fucking miserable, at seventeen. I moved on for a reason.

And making yourself crazy is not cool.

Comments

[metallumai.livejournal.com]

I think you're going to have to. If the friendship is done, or most likely done, and if the letter will help define the reasons for that, you do have to. Even just for you. Write it anyway, and then decide whether to give it to her. If you really think/hope it will help her too sooner or later, then even if it's hard for her to get through and she'll be even angrier at you, go on and send it.

No matter if you told her the reasons for your distance-- it's more, what, inescapable, in black and white.

[villainny.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the advice. I'm working on the letter. I have to go pick up my stuff from her house, which is going to be interesting.

[darthrami.livejournal.com]

*hugs you*

I don't ever want you to tell me things are okay if they're not, okay?

*hugs you more*

I'm here, if you need to talk.

[la-rainette.livejournal.com]

*tacklehugs* where are you, BTW? How are things?

[darthrami.livejournal.com]

Physically, I'm here in VA. Electronically, I just hopped onto YM, in addition to AIM, though I'm invisible.

Things are good. We should talk. :-)

[la-rainette.livejournal.com]

:) YAY! I wish I could, but right now I have to run out of the house and get croissants so that we can bring the man in the house breakfast in bed (I promised the girls, cos it's father's Day, and I have to be quick, else he'll be up before we're ready ;) )

But I'll try to hop on later, or I'll be on tomorrow, 'k? I'M GLAD THINGS ARE GOOD!

[villainny.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

I love you.

[la-rainette.livejournal.com]

I second what Judy says. Write that letter. Whether you decide or not to give it to her -- well, that you don't need to decide right now.

But it's not the first time this happens with her, is it? And it's likely not to be the last. So maybe you should take your distance, if only to protect yourself from further hurt. If that friendship hurts you, and if you have a hard time dealing with it -- as hard and heartless as it sounds, I'd say take some time to decide whether you want to go on with it.

[villainny.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

When we get installed in the new house I'll sort out YM, I swear. I want to talk to you. And thank you for the advice.

[fire-and-a-rose.livejournal.com]

If you ever want to tell me things are not okay, do not for a moment feel that you shouldn't.

If you ever want to tell me things are okay when they're not, do not for a moment feel like you shouldn't.

I will listen, either way. I'd prefer the first, but I understand the need for the second.

I love you, I'm sorry this is something you have to deal with, and I'm here.

[villainny.livejournal.com]

I love you.

Thank you.

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I am sorry to hear it.

I know about not wanting to talk about not-okay things, believe me.

[villainny.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[runcible.livejournal.com]

I have no idea what's going on, but I feel you need a hug. ::gives a big squishy one::

[villainny.livejournal.com]

I'm most grateful for it. And I love your icon. XD

(changes icon For Great Justice)

[silveraspen]

*hugs* I am sorry. It's hard, very hard, when friendships grow apart like that.

And I know that knowing it and doing it are different things entirely, but you can always, always tell me things are not okay, if things are wrong.

And if you can't, and just need to flail sometimes, that's all right. Or whatever. :)

*hugs again and sends tea.*

[shati.livejournal.com]

*sidles in*

Um. I never thanked you for something you did ages ago, and I want to, and I hope you get email notifications. Just -- we were talking, and you asked if everything was all right, and said I could talk to you.

Thanks for being there. A small thing, and I didn't even take you up on it because I was trying not to have a full breakdown right before class, but it was a bad time for me, and your saying that meant a hell of a lot more than I think came across.

And: what Mir said. If you ever want to tell me things are all right when they aren't, go ahead. And if you ever want to tell me things aren't all right when they aren't, well, yeah. I'm here. And I'm glad it looks like things are looking up for you, from your latest post.

Um. *gruffs about stoically, scuttles away*