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[nny]

I was talking to liz666 a couple of days ago about how my mum doesn't discuss sanitary towels. She doesn't talk about periods or sex, either, although every now and again she'll make a joke that'll have me coming out with a high pitched MUM! I think it's squeam rather than prudishness - I just happened to mention that I was a bit snotty and she flailed and told me that for heaven's sake she was cooking.

It tallies with what I was thinking about yesterday, though, so I'll neatly segue in a completely seamless fashion that you won't notice. :D

What I was wondering was who TMI cuts are for. A lot of people on my f-list cut mention of periods and suchlike, and I just wondered who needed saving. I don't mean to sound a)self-righteous or b)accusing, since I am well aware that I am far more open on my journal than a lot of people, and that my comfort threshold is a lot more forgiving than many. I talk about anything on my journal that I would talk about in real life, frankly, and sometimes more; I talk on my journal as though I've had a couple of drinks and loosened my inhibitions a little. I just wondered, really, who you're thinking of when you cut - the poor unfortunate males on your f-list, the squeamish, the RL folken? For that matter, what do you cut? Talk of menstruation? Illnesses? Sex?

I suspect there is something of the attention seeking ten-year-old still lurking within me. You know, the part of you that still enjoys peeling off sunburned skin, picking at scabs, doing really loud burps and prodding at a new piercing when it goops. *grins*

Basically, I will talk about pretty much anything people ask me about, sometimes far louder than is appropriate. What this means is that when I do the ask me anything meme I very rarely get asked anything, since everyone knows pretty much everything there is to know. (I talk too much.)

For the record, then: If you want to know anything about me, at any time, feel free to ask. I may refuse to answer, although it's exceeding rare, but I will never be upset by the asking.

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[in-the-blue.livejournal.com]

The males on my friends list have been brave enough to bear with me through the toils and tribulations of having my uterus sliced out and thrown away, so I don't cut things for the lovely monthly TMI or the too-long-don't-read crap. If I don't want to talk about it I don't write about it. If I only want to talk about it to a subset of people, so be it.

I sometimes put very long rambly journal entries behind a cut, because a few people on my friends list have made it clear that they appreciate that when they skim. See, this is me scratching my head in an oblivious manner. It takes that extra click to read it and if you want to read it you have to click it, so why not just see it? But these are people whose time I respect, so I'll sometimes do that. I might put spoilerish stuff behind a cut. Sometimes if I have a fic or piece of a fic, I'll put it behind a cut in case people don't have the least inclination to burrow through my writing. That's fair.

I don't think I've ever done the ask me anything meme. I suppose I've always assumed if people want to know something about me they'll just take it upon themselves to ask away with reckless abandon.

[josepheenie.livejournal.com]

*when* I post, and ok, this is extremely infrequent these days I cut most personal things, not because I have issue with them or I think anyone else will, but just to save people reading stuff they don't actually want to by mistake, or just to warn them what is coming up. hmmm

[tropes.livejournal.com]

I tend to cut anything potentially triggering because I know of three or four ED-sufferers on my flist. And I cut the copious bleeding like stuck pig stuff because not everyone is earthy like me. For instance: While my sister and brother in law and I giggle and get drunk and come up with catchall terms for female problems like: Snatchitosis, my niece gets very offended and I start to wish for an LJ-cut in real life.

But maybe that is just plain tact. =))

[apiphile.livejournal.com]

I cut because there are some PHENOMENAL PRUDES reading my journal. Why the fuck they are reading *my* journal, I don't know.

[foreverdirt.livejournal.com]

I tend to cut graphic description of bodily functions and mention of genitals, but not general "I love my mooncup" / "I have a cold" / "I hafta peeeeeee"

A lot of people on my f-list cut mention of periods and suchlike, and I just wondered who needed saving.

Hmm. I don't see it as a question of saving, just some people -- female and male -- don't like to think about bodily functions, and since it's not typical of my journal content I feel as if they deserve some warning of what's coming up.

I think it's just a question of cutting unexpected things people may find unpleasant, unless you have a reason not to -- in your journal, nothing much is unexpected so by my standards you don't need to cut anything, whereas in my journal bodyparts, angst and ramble are all generally cut.

[villainny.livejournal.com]

in your journal, nothing much is unexpected


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*chuffed*

[shati.livejournal.com]

Any excuse for a cut! I am paranoid about taking up space on people's flists, and when I read, I open any entry I plan to comment to/read the comments of/take more than 30 seconds to read in a new tab. (SO MANY TABS!)

[fer-de-lance.livejournal.com]

Oddly enough, I was thinking about this stuff last week.

Mostly, I will tell people anything. :D However, in real life I do have several squeamish friends, so I guess I assume that an online FList would the same; so I try to refrain from talking about the sorts of things that commonly squick people.

When I was sick, though? I noticed that there was, in fact, one thing I do NOT discuss with anyone, and that is fecal matter/bowel movements. Not even with doctors, by preference. I don't think this is a matter of "Ewwww, gross!" so much as it is denial/pride (I don't have such base things! Never!), but perhaps there's a bit of squick involved, too (I emphatically don't want to hear about anyone else's solid matter excretion, either).

Periods, pee, blood, scabs, disgusting tactile experiences, rotten food, gross jobs... all of that, I'm fine with. I tend to only LJ-cut for "internal matters", though -- blood, excretion, or gory wounds/surgery sorts of things.

[corchen.livejournal.com]

I cut for anything that could potentially be triggering - eating disorders or self-injury, for indulgent whining, and for length. Although I often forget the latter.