I don't do expectations, but that means i never achieve. You have to find a balance between holding yourself up to standards that'll make you work, and getting depressed by standards you will never achieve. If you hold yourself and others up to standards that're too high all that's ever going to mean is that no one will be good enough for you. And that's just depressing.
(It's not an ideal solution. But it's one that works. Once you found out what you/other people are capable of, that's when you can start aiming higher.)
I'm afraid of everything too. That just means that what you do is more of an achievement. :)
Good advice, but it's a difficult habit to break. I know my metaphorical yardstick is kind of fucked up, but I haven't managed to adjust it--one of those knowing isn't the same as believing things.
I'd like to learn to relax. My shoulder muscles would like me to learn to relax.
What gets me, though, is that I shouldn't be afraid. I'm a perfectly likeable, capable person, and yet.
Another knowing/believing thing that would be good for me to internalize, I guess. Meh.
*sighs* yeah, I know. The hardest thing about advice is a)following it and b)forgiving the person for giving it, even if it was solicited. XD
I'm with you on the shoulders thing. I'm using birthday money for a massage, I've decided, 'cos when mates try to give me one they bruise me, I'm so tense.
I don't think many people should be afraid. It's just something that happens. What counts is whether you keep going anyway, or whether you hide from it, I guess.
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Date: 2006-11-29 06:36 am (UTC)(It's not an ideal solution. But it's one that works. Once you found out what you/other people are capable of, that's when you can start aiming higher.)
I'm afraid of everything too. That just means that what you do is more of an achievement. :)
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Date: 2006-11-29 07:10 am (UTC)I'd like to learn to relax. My shoulder muscles would like me to learn to relax.
What gets me, though, is that I shouldn't be afraid. I'm a perfectly likeable, capable person, and yet.
Another knowing/believing thing that would be good for me to internalize, I guess. Meh.
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Date: 2006-11-29 07:16 am (UTC)I'm with you on the shoulders thing. I'm using birthday money for a massage, I've decided, 'cos when mates try to give me one they bruise me, I'm so tense.
I don't think many people should be afraid. It's just something that happens. What counts is whether you keep going anyway, or whether you hide from it, I guess.