I feel like, no matter how much I love my major (something you've asked me about before), I will always get fucked over because it's not Computer Science or International Studies or something that's 'marketable and useful'.
My major is useful, damnit, and every time someone says it's 'cute but pointless' I want to cry. Or hit them. But usually cry.
I want to do a masters in religious studies, so I kinda get where you're coming from. Fuck them. Seriously, fuck them. I let people mocking me decide me about whether to do religious studies or english language, and as a result the only thing that preserved my sanity at uni was milliways. The degree is what counts, not what it's in. It says a lot about you, when you've got it - that you're determined, you see things through, you're bright... degrees can be adapted to what you want to do, it doesn't have to be the other way around.
I recently got out of a cult that was headed by a guy who said he was Neo from The Matrix, sent to this world to keep the robots from taking over here. I still sort of half-believe that he was telling the truth. I was in it for a year and a half...I really should have known better. I still should.
(Note: I'm posting from a shared, semi-anonymous account because my computer won't let me post real anonymous. But this is someone who actually is a real person and has you as an LJ friend on their own account.)
That's amazing. Kudos to you for getting out! But in all honesty, that's such an interesting story. I don't know about Nny but I for one would love to hear more about it.
(Because I am a voyeur. No offence intended. It really is great that you got yourself out of there!)
I feel flat and empty and afraid of being anything other than that, because it hurts too much to be disappointed when it turns out that people aren't capable of being as good as I wish they were. Especially myself.
I'm not old enough to be an adult. I can't do this grown up thing.
I wish I weren't afraid of everything.
I had to give this to someone, and I figured what the hell, might as well be someone I don't actually know.
I don't do expectations, but that means i never achieve. You have to find a balance between holding yourself up to standards that'll make you work, and getting depressed by standards you will never achieve. If you hold yourself and others up to standards that're too high all that's ever going to mean is that no one will be good enough for you. And that's just depressing.
(It's not an ideal solution. But it's one that works. Once you found out what you/other people are capable of, that's when you can start aiming higher.)
I'm afraid of everything too. That just means that what you do is more of an achievement. :)
I think everyone gets that on occasion. So long as it's just on occasion, I reckon you're okay. If it's more often, maybe there's something wrong you just don't want to admit to?
Sometimes I think no one will ever love me! Then I say to myself, to be fair, self, you haven't exactly been going around falling in love with people left and right either. Perhaps it's one of those give-and-take things. But then I think, I have loved and lost! Or not lost, because I didn't actually ever have in the first place, so the prerequisite for loss was not present. Anyway the inevitable conclusion is that I will DIE ALONE, which is quite sad really when you think about it.
I occillate between being utterly, totally sure that I will be discovered (for something - not even sure what) any day now, and my future wealth and fame is completely assured...
and being terrified that I'm wrong, and I'm not really talented, and I'm not even pretty, so there goes not needing it, and while I don't think I'll be completely screwed, I'll be... nothing. Just another waste of oxygen.
I doubt you'll be a waste of oxygen either way. Everyone makes an impact, even if it's not on everyone. And I know that's not a great thing to hear, so the other option is not to wait for it. Grab life for yourself - if there's something you want to be discovered for, work at it. Go for every opportunity you can.
It comes with time. It kinda happened without my noticing, and it's not all the time, just when it's necessary. So long as you can make the distinction between being childlike and being childish, you're all good. :)?
I worry that I shouldn't have broken up with him; I worry that nobody else will ever want me; I worry that they're all going to be happy with their significant others and move on to bigger and better things and I'll still be here, wondering where they all went.
I have the most annoying of reccurring crushes on a girl at my school and on my friends list who has a girlfriend and probably thinks I'm 100% straight (so I sympathise with the person above who's in the reverse position).
I can't stand people touching me unless it's on my terms. Not quite as unhelpful, but kinda.
I think it's something that you can work on, though. Just start casually and never go beyond your comfort zone - make an effort to touch your mates, in a completely casual way, until it's something you're a little more comfortable with. Might take time, but it's worth a try?
This isn't really my area of expertise, say sorry - some days I'm cling-hugging to the world, others I'm snippy if people even touch me on the shoulder. :)
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Date: 2006-11-28 10:58 pm (UTC)I imagine the same is true of half the players.
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Date: 2006-11-28 10:59 pm (UTC)You poor sod.
*hugs*
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Date: 2006-11-28 11:28 pm (UTC)My major is useful, damnit, and every time someone says it's 'cute but pointless' I want to cry. Or hit them. But usually cry.
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Date: 2006-11-28 11:44 pm (UTC)(Note: I'm posting from a shared, semi-anonymous account because my computer won't let me post real anonymous. But this is someone who actually is a real person and has you as an LJ friend on their own account.)
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Date: 2006-11-28 11:46 pm (UTC)(Because I am a voyeur. No offence intended. It really is great that you got yourself out of there!)
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Date: 2006-11-29 12:01 am (UTC)I'm not old enough to be an adult. I can't do this grown up thing.
I wish I weren't afraid of everything.
I had to give this to someone, and I figured what the hell, might as well be someone I don't actually know.
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Date: 2006-11-29 06:36 am (UTC)(It's not an ideal solution. But it's one that works. Once you found out what you/other people are capable of, that's when you can start aiming higher.)
I'm afraid of everything too. That just means that what you do is more of an achievement. :)
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Date: 2006-11-29 12:15 am (UTC)But I just had some pasta. All is well.
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Date: 2006-11-29 06:39 am (UTC)Your holidays are weird. I'm glad you're eating again.
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Date: 2006-11-29 12:41 am (UTC)I'm open about it, yet somehow it seems to have remained a secret to some people. They go 'pfft, whatever.'
But I am.
I'll show them all.
(!!!!!!)
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Date: 2006-11-29 06:39 am (UTC)*claps hands frantically*
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Date: 2006-11-29 12:45 am (UTC)and being terrified that I'm wrong, and I'm not really talented, and I'm not even pretty, so there goes not needing it, and while I don't think I'll be completely screwed, I'll be... nothing. Just another waste of oxygen.
And I hate thinking like that.
Both ways.
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Date: 2006-11-29 06:42 am (UTC)(this is advice I need to be taking myself.)
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Date: 2006-11-29 01:43 am (UTC)I am not actually a dirty h0. I just play them on the internets.
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Date: 2006-11-29 06:43 am (UTC)(I'm not actually an angel. Don't tell!)
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Date: 2006-11-29 06:45 am (UTC)Do they make you happy? I guess that's the key thing.
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Date: 2006-11-29 06:51 am (UTC)I think it's something that you can work on, though. Just start casually and never go beyond your comfort zone - make an effort to touch your mates, in a completely casual way, until it's something you're a little more comfortable with. Might take time, but it's worth a try?
This isn't really my area of expertise, say sorry - some days I'm cling-hugging to the world, others I'm snippy if people even touch me on the shoulder. :)
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